tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17922979.post8375337050349214999..comments2024-03-18T20:32:19.364+00:00Comments on Seeking a Little Truth: CyberKittenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06394155516712665665noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17922979.post-87587255662379030522011-02-19T23:24:43.130+00:002011-02-19T23:24:43.130+00:00"So I wouldn't be the only life-time athe..."So I wouldn't be the only life-time atheist and skeptic in the room then?"<br /><br />Nope. Have I told you my sisters are atheists? I was an atheist, once. I love atheists...for dinner.<br /><br /><br /><br />LOLSadie Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07362158642491145353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17922979.post-91555745150819764362011-02-18T23:51:49.120+00:002011-02-18T23:51:49.120+00:00I hope your dinner parties aren't a twist on t...I hope your dinner parties aren't a twist on the 90's movie <i>The Last Supper</i> where a group of liberals would invite a rightwing host to dinner and then kill him. Don't be surprised, CK ... you might be on the menu! bwa-ha-ha-ha!!dbackdadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10700991588554336491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17922979.post-63545737179889620362011-02-18T21:32:03.132+00:002011-02-18T21:32:03.132+00:00sadie said: "bennies"--yeah, a friend yo...sadie said: "bennies"--yeah, a friend you have sex with.<br /><br />Cool. I like that idea.<br /><br />sadie said: Oh trust me, we don't just surround ourselves with people who think the same as we do. You'd fit right in.<br /><br />So I wouldn't be the only life-time atheist and skeptic in the room then?CyberKittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06394155516712665665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17922979.post-63681842340073341912011-02-18T19:54:13.582+00:002011-02-18T19:54:13.582+00:00"bennies"--yeah, a friend you have sex w..."bennies"--yeah, a friend you have sex with.<br /><br />"Oh, I can just imagine the conversations! [rotflmao] I'm sure that some of your guests *really* wouldn't know how to take me...."<br /><br />Oh trust me, we don't just surround ourselves with people who think the same as we do. You'd fit right in.<br />:DSadie Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07362158642491145353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17922979.post-45102410770529571492011-02-18T17:21:50.885+00:002011-02-18T17:21:50.885+00:00V V said: Also watching me go out with idiots when...V V said: Also watching me go out with idiots when he was Prince Charming waiting in the corner must have been pretty irritating for him too.<br /><br />Oh, I have *so* been there.<br /><br />V V said: Okay, all that aside, have you tried Internet dating?<br /><br />No, but meeting new people is not the issue - it's forming meaningful relationships with women that's the problem. I'm meeting new people on a regular basis - it's actually part of my day job - so I don't feel the need to meet even more. <br /><br />V V said: You just need to swim in a different pool to catch a female that's right for you.<br /><br />I believe I've swum (is that a word?) in many different pools over the years... and in none of them could I have been descibed as normal or ordinary.... [grin]<br /><br />dbackdad said: I'm firmly in the camp that it is better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all.<br /><br />Indeed... Or as I like to say it: It is better to have loved a short person than never to have loved a tall.<br /><br />sadie said: I have to admit, I never thought I would have seen such a vulnerable post from you. I'm pleasantly surprised.<br /><br />Suprised that I'm a human being or surprised that I admitted it? [laughs]<br /><br />sadie said: Perhaps at this point in your life, you're looking for a companion? (with bennies?)<br /><br />Presumably you mean benefits rather than Benzedrine? By benefits presumably you mean sex?<br /><br />sadie said: I wish you lived nearby, you could be in our regular camp of dinner guests. <br /><br />Oh, I can just imagine the conversations! [rotflmao] I'm sure that some of your guests *really* wouldn't know how to take me....<br /><br />sadie said: Who knows CY, maybe when you're not looking for anything, someone will surprise you-?<br /><br />It seemed that happened last time I 'gave up' on the whole deal. I think it's unlikely that lightening would strike twice though - not that it was exactly all roses last time [grin]CyberKittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06394155516712665665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17922979.post-67704995861017434792011-02-18T15:44:04.852+00:002011-02-18T15:44:04.852+00:00Hi!
I have to admit, I never thought I would have ...Hi!<br />I have to admit, I never thought I would have seen such a vulnerable post from you. I'm pleasantly surprised. I'm glad you haven't completely abandoned the idea of ever being in love because I think that would be a little sad...and in the early part of your post, you said you don't have a partner-shaped hole in your life, but sounds a little bit like by the end of your post, you would be happy with the idea of having a partner?<br />Perhaps at this point in your life, you're looking for a companion? (with bennies?)<br />Like Lance, I have been happily married for almost 15 years but I can still empathize with your situation because my husband and I have so many single friends. I enjoy hanging out with our single friends and having them to the house for dinner because I feel like many of them grow really weary of eating alone and being alone at night. There is something about eating meals that feels like a community activity. Yeah?<br />I wish you lived nearby, you could be in our regular camp of dinner guests. <br />Who knows CY, maybe when you're not looking for anything, someone will surprise you-?<br />~SSadie Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07362158642491145353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17922979.post-40044186046515868762011-02-15T05:14:43.553+00:002011-02-15T05:14:43.553+00:00Women are dumb. :-) (only partly in jest)
Readin...Women are dumb. :-) (only partly in jest)<br /><br />Reading your trials, I was very much reminded of all the same feelings that I went through back in the day. I've been happily (and luckily) married for almost 17 years, but my college years and early 20's careened from loneliness to anguish to embarrassment to entirely too many platonic relationships. And I wouldn't trade a single second of it. Being an atheist, that's what this life is about ... experiencing things. Love, loss, pain, joy. I'm firmly in the camp that it is better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all. It's better to risk embarrassment and tell someone that you care about them than to leave those feelings unrequited. This is the only life we have and we better not waste it on regret.dbackdadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10700991588554336491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17922979.post-22038999460412296112011-02-14T14:12:07.932+00:002011-02-14T14:12:07.932+00:00Poor CK, I know your position well, having been on...Poor CK, I know your position well, having been on both sides of it in the past. As a woman, having had really great friendships with men who I was not interested in romantically, I think I can explain. At first, because there is no romantic interest on the female side, any hints from the male go unnoticed because it's not even a possibility in the female's mind. Then, when the hints are undeniable, the female will consider the possibility, ponder how the relationship might go, and even think about the physical aspects. If there really is not even the remotest spark of romantic interest on the part of the female, the thought of physical intimacy seems wrong, like having an intimate relationship with a brother. If there is a spark of romantic interest, the female will likely play out all her previous relationships with jerks and how badly they ended. The female will not want to lose her best male friend by getting romantically involved with him for fear it will all end up in a messy breakup. If the friendship is a really good, solid, happy one for the female, she will try to ignore any further hints, because openly rejecting the advances might jeopardize the friendship too, and the loss of such a good friend is unthinkable to her. This does not help the guy in the least, but I thought I'd give you some insight into the workings of the female mind. I still miss my best friend of my teenage and young 20s era. I just did not feel the way he did, and I guess continuing to be friends after I rejected his advances was too much for him. Also watching me go out with idiots when he was Prince Charming waiting in the corner must have been pretty irritating for him too. There's no accounting for who you're attracted to. I think I couldn't have been attracted to any decent guy when I was younger because some part of my psyche was convinced I didn't deserve a decent guy. Okay, all that aside, have you tried Internet dating? I've got a bunch of friends here who have been successful and are either now married or about to get married, including the tall lady I previously mentioned to you. She's in her 40s, beautiful, educated, and by all accounts should have been snatched up at a young age. She wasn't though, and over the years, her desperation became more obvious, which sent men running. She finally chilled out, accepted it wasn't going to happen, began considering in vitro to have a child and create the life she wanted as best as she could, then she met the man she's now engaged to. Another thing I've noticed, is sometimes you're too familiar and ordinary to the people around you and if you step outside your area, you're more attractive. My best friend who liked me, couldn't get dates with any of our peers. He was too cerebral, his face too pock-marked, and too normal. He eventually met a woman from South America who loved how different he was from all the men she knew. They've been married now for about 25 years. Don't give up. If you have that many female friends with great conversations, you're definitely a good guy. You just need to swim in a different pool to catch a female that's right for you.VVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08751403913379728345noreply@blogger.com