What is that quote I'm looking for from my past? "Great truths are often clothed in jest," or something like that. It is a chronic condition for some of us, always attracted to the assholes, and the wonderful guys are relegated to "friend." I finally stopped that bad habit with guys by hooking up with a girl. We celebrated our 11th anniversary on Tuesday. So I'm not breaking any hearts anymore.
Indeed. *Many* a true word is said in jest... Probably because life is just a joke (to possibly misquote Hendrix).
I showed the cartoon to some of the people @ work. They thought it was both funny and true - and most of them were women.
I think that I am naturally attracted to unsuitable women - though I try to look for the warning signs but then too often ignore them. These days I'm on sabbatical from all that sort of thing....
So you're guilty of the same thing, attraction to the wrong women? What would be the warning signs in women? In men, there's self-centeredness, they matter more than the women. They never remember to call, birthdays, anniversaries, and ALWAYS keep their alone time or guy time sacred, regardless of what else is going on. They also have a mean streak.
V V said: So you're guilty of the same thing, attraction to the wrong women?
Not really - or not in the same sense as I think the cartoon means. I think most people find bad-boys/girls potentially exciting. There is an element of not knowing what they'll do next which takes you out of the mundane every day experience of life. It's an attractive quality - for a short while. But I'm reasonable and rational enough to realise that the short time such people are fun is full of stressful (not so fun) situations. I'm also well aware that such people would not (generally) find me of any interest whatsoever.
Having one partner is a rare enough event that I have never actually experienced being with someone only to find their is a more exciting 'bad girl' in the wings who I could potentially dump my less exciting partner for. If such an eventuality ever happens I expect (and hope) that I'd be sensible not to give up what I had for something I could never actually possess.
If seems to be a common factor that people are often on the look out for grass that is both greener and slightly more dangerous that the grass in their existing 'field'. I have seen friends more than tempted in this fashion. Almost without exception it has ended baddly for all concerned sooner or later. As life is too short to learn from your own mistakes I have learnt from other people's.
Yeah, I know what you mean. We have a lot of friends breaking up and going through divorces right now. We can see the mistakes they're making, and we just wonder, why they're doing it. I told my one friend that if she and her husband didn't put in the effort to fix what was wrong in their relationship, they'd just make the same mistakes with the same results in the next one. In their instance, the husband is running away from some serious problems rather than dealing with them. I don't think he realizes he's carrying those same problems to the next relationship.
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There's much truth to that. And there would still be if the man were saying the same lines.
Oh, I'm sure that it's not a one-way street... but I'm guessing it isn't a 50-50 split either.
What is that quote I'm looking for from my past? "Great truths are often clothed in jest," or something like that. It is a chronic condition for some of us, always attracted to the assholes, and the wonderful guys are relegated to "friend." I finally stopped that bad habit with guys by hooking up with a girl. We celebrated our 11th anniversary on Tuesday. So I'm not breaking any hearts anymore.
Indeed. *Many* a true word is said in jest... Probably because life is just a joke (to possibly misquote Hendrix).
I showed the cartoon to some of the people @ work. They thought it was both funny and true - and most of them were women.
I think that I am naturally attracted to unsuitable women - though I try to look for the warning signs but then too often ignore them. These days I'm on sabbatical from all that sort of thing....
So you're guilty of the same thing, attraction to the wrong women? What would be the warning signs in women? In men, there's self-centeredness, they matter more than the women. They never remember to call, birthdays, anniversaries, and ALWAYS keep their alone time or guy time sacred, regardless of what else is going on. They also have a mean streak.
V V said: So you're guilty of the same thing, attraction to the wrong women?
Not really - or not in the same sense as I think the cartoon means. I think most people find bad-boys/girls potentially exciting. There is an element of not knowing what they'll do next which takes you out of the mundane every day experience of life. It's an attractive quality - for a short while. But I'm reasonable and rational enough to realise that the short time such people are fun is full of stressful (not so fun) situations. I'm also well aware that such people would not (generally) find me of any interest whatsoever.
Having one partner is a rare enough event that I have never actually experienced being with someone only to find their is a more exciting 'bad girl' in the wings who I could potentially dump my less exciting partner for. If such an eventuality ever happens I expect (and hope) that I'd be sensible not to give up what I had for something I could never actually possess.
If seems to be a common factor that people are often on the look out for grass that is both greener and slightly more dangerous that the grass in their existing 'field'. I have seen friends more than tempted in this fashion. Almost without exception it has ended baddly for all concerned sooner or later. As life is too short to learn from your own mistakes I have learnt from other people's.
Yeah, I know what you mean. We have a lot of friends breaking up and going through divorces right now. We can see the mistakes they're making, and we just wonder, why they're doing it. I told my one friend that if she and her husband didn't put in the effort to fix what was wrong in their relationship, they'd just make the same mistakes with the same results in the next one. In their instance, the husband is running away from some serious problems rather than dealing with them. I don't think he realizes he's carrying those same problems to the next relationship.
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