They do have a lot more to put up with than the average man - probably because men (by and large) designed our system/culture to be more inimical to women. I think that women have been taught to hide their intelligence and their strength because (again by and large) they believe that men don't appreciate such things in women. This, I think, is a great mistake which damages our culture/society/civilisation greatly. I have never understood the idea that women are in any way inferior to men. Imagine if they had been treated as equals from the beginning of time? Imagine the release of all that wasted talent in the service of mankind? Where would we be today if half the population was allowed, expected and encouraged to contribute as much as they no doubt can....
I actually had a guy tell me, even though he was attracted to me, he would never date me, because I was smarter than him, and he found that intimidating. 🤔 Funny, I've always been attracted to people smarter than me. Being female does present its own set of biological challenges, aside from any limitations society puts on us. I can't remember a time in my life that I didn't check to make sure all doors and windows were locked before going to bed. I always had large dogs when single for protection. I have been physically attacked, assaulted, and stalked numerous times in my life. I've been told I was aggressive or too assertive for knowing the right answer, having an opinion, or arguing topics with peers. I sometimes wonder if I'm in a relationship with a woman now, because she accepts me for who I am, and doesn't try to control or limit me. That said, I am to blame for part of the baggage placed upon me, because I did buy into the roles, I did want to please, I did think I should be attracted to a certain type of male. All those societal expectations led to disappointment for me, and for great guys limited to the friend zone. Why can't we acquire the wisdom and confidience of old age a few decades sooner?
VV: excellent comment... although i also wish humans were different than they are, and that we could see them more clearly at an earlier age, it's helped me in the past to learn that they're just animals and worse than some... or most... and to take care when around them... they bite!
I've never understood how intelligent women (or just intelligent people in general) can be intimidating. When people tell me that I'm intimidating (or that they've heard that I am) I burst into gales of laughter. I'm the least intimidating person I know! Personally I find intelligent women highly attractive most especially when they can use that intelligence with whit and humour.
I had a frighteningly smart tutor during my last Masters degree (he taught Nietzsche of course) and I thought to myself 'cool, I'm going to learn *so* much off this guy!'... and I did. That's what I call a result....
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i truly believe that most women are stronger than most men... it's just that they have a lot more to cope with...
They do have a lot more to put up with than the average man - probably because men (by and large) designed our system/culture to be more inimical to women. I think that women have been taught to hide their intelligence and their strength because (again by and large) they believe that men don't appreciate such things in women. This, I think, is a great mistake which damages our culture/society/civilisation greatly. I have never understood the idea that women are in any way inferior to men. Imagine if they had been treated as equals from the beginning of time? Imagine the release of all that wasted talent in the service of mankind? Where would we be today if half the population was allowed, expected and encouraged to contribute as much as they no doubt can....
as i cited elsewhere, Robert Graves in his"The White Goddess" makes a valiant effort in restoring the feminine to it's rightful place...
I actually had a guy tell me, even though he was attracted to me, he would never date me, because I was smarter than him, and he found that intimidating. 🤔 Funny, I've always been attracted to people smarter than me. Being female does present its own set of biological challenges, aside from any limitations society puts on us. I can't remember a time in my life that I didn't check to make sure all doors and windows were locked before going to bed. I always had large dogs when single for protection. I have been physically attacked, assaulted, and stalked numerous times in my life. I've been told I was aggressive or too assertive for knowing the right answer, having an opinion, or arguing topics with peers. I sometimes wonder if I'm in a relationship with a woman now, because she accepts me for who I am, and doesn't try to control or limit me. That said, I am to blame for part of the baggage placed upon me, because I did buy into the roles, I did want to please, I did think I should be attracted to a certain type of male. All those societal expectations led to disappointment for me, and for great guys limited to the friend zone. Why can't we acquire the wisdom and confidience of old age a few decades sooner?
VV: excellent comment... although i also wish humans were different than they are, and that we could see them more clearly at an earlier age, it's helped me in the past to learn that they're just animals and worse than some... or most... and to take care when around them... they bite!
I've never understood how intelligent women (or just intelligent people in general) can be intimidating. When people tell me that I'm intimidating (or that they've heard that I am) I burst into gales of laughter. I'm the least intimidating person I know! Personally I find intelligent women highly attractive most especially when they can use that intelligence with whit and humour.
I had a frighteningly smart tutor during my last Masters degree (he taught Nietzsche of course) and I thought to myself 'cool, I'm going to learn *so* much off this guy!'... and I did. That's what I call a result....
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